7 tips to help you overcome online dating addiction

Being a quitter is not a fate anyone would want be proud of but for a person suffering from online dating addiction, it is a big feat. In as much as online dating sites and apps has been a great platform to meet people, not everyone has a good story to tell of their experiences of getting matched with their choice mates and for some who do find it may not go the way they would have wanted it. Some persons even get scammed, harmed and abused.

The irony remains that even with the ugly experience that many have had using online dating sites, saying no to it remains an herculean task. If you are one of such, the following suggestions would be helpful on your journey.

1. You recognize that you are wasting too much time on dating apps.

You’ll be able to let go of the hold and impact dating apps have on your life and self-esteem once you’ve accomplished this.

2. You realize you’re attempting to obtain something from dating apps that the app cannot provide.

When you first started using Tinder or Bumble, you thought it would be enjoyable to meet new people and maybe find someone special. Scrolling through profiles is more stressful than enjoyable. Every date you’ve gone on has gotten more and more irritating and discouraging. You keep returning to the app, hoping for a different result. The app can let you meet a lot of different people, but it can’t help you make true connections.

3. You already have what you’re looking for.

You’ll be setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartbreak if you’re searching for a relationship to validate your self-worth. You’re at the mercy of another person if you’re reliant on another individual for your own feeling of self and happiness. You are the one person you have complete authority over. You must be content both inside and outside of a relationship.

4. Instead than thinking about the high, consider the hangover.

Do you romanticize the “high” and forget about the “hangover” when you reflect on your dating app experiences? Identifying how dating apps make you feel is one approach to avoid this. Make a mental note of how you feel when using the dating app. Close the app and make a new list of how you’re feeling. Then, 3 hours later, make a note of how you feel. Compare your feelings before and after to evaluate if your hangover is worse than your high.

5. You’re now going to “out” yourself to a friend.

I’d like you to tell a good buddy about your real-life dating app experiences and feelings. You can recount all of your dating stories to your pals, but for this phase, I want you to push yourself and delve deeper. I don’t want you to do your comic routine about “dating sucks.” That’s far too simple. I’d like you to discuss how these apps make you feel. Share with your pal what you actually want in a relationship and how you’ve compromised on what you really wanted to feel better right now.

6. You must remember to play the video through when you get the impulse to get on the app now that you understand the underlying feelings of your dating hangover.

You’ve recognized how you feel when you’re using applications and when you’re not. While you may be feeling powerful right now, getting go of old habits is never easy. There will be times when the Tinder app will beckon you. What do you do if you have a strong desire to do something? You listen to the recording all the way through. You want to play out the situation in your head when you feel the want to go back to scrolling through Tinder. You may feel fantastic at first, but you must remember that you will have to exit the app at some point. How do you truly feel if you’ve uninstalled the app or gone on another unsatisfying date? When you’re lonely, it’s simple to think about what the high would bring you, but you must remember that the high comes with a hangover.

7. Get out of your comfort zone. Make a difference in the lives of others. There’s more to life than just dating.

You’ve completed all of the previous phases and have been working on yourself. The finest thing you can do is to turn your gaze away from yourself and toward others. “What can I do to help someone else or to make the world a better place?” ask yourself. What about that community garden down the street where you’ve been promising yourself you’ll volunteer “one of these days”? It’s possible that the person you’ve been looking for on the internet is the volunteer organizer.