I gave off Tinder a few months ago. But, as with many poisonous, dysfunctional relationships, I’ve found myself returning to my ex. We still have a lot of the same issues we used to have — disrespectful arguments, disappointing date nights out together, and inappropriate sex discussions — but, hey, if romantic prospects are all staring at their phones at the bar instead of talking to me, I figure I might as well get in front of them in some way, right? Wrong. Even though I don’t use dating apps as much as I used to, they’re still running in the background of my phone in case someone of potential interest and character proves me wrong about finding love on dating apps.
1. Through Your Couple Friends
“People in relationships like seeing their friends and family meet someone special, and their social circle grows as a result of their new relationship.” If your friend is dating a wonderful [person], spend some time with them and [their] buddies. The loose links in our lives (for example, a friend of a friend) are frequently the ones that connect us to our most significant relationships. So, rather than attempting to date your best friend’s [significant other’s] buddies, ask if they can introduce you to theirs. Allow your inner circle to serve as a link to a larger group of people.” – Esther Boykin, a marriage, family, and relationship therapist with a license.
2. By Keeping Your Eyes Open in Public Places
“There’s a grocery shop, a train station, and a bus stop.” These may seem bizarre, but I’ve worked with clients who have met in each of these locations! You might even meet someone while waiting in line for something, such as a concert or a table at a restaurant. These are great spots to strike up a conversation with a stranger.” -Dr. Jane Greer, New York-based relationship expert and author
3. Sports Bars
“Social sports groups are usually entertaining because most teams are co-ed, and you get to have a good time while showcasing your athletic ability.” As an added benefit, each league has sponsoring establishments with drink specials to encourage teams to stay after the game, which is always a fantastic opportunity to interact and maybe build more than just team chemistry.” -Thomas Edwards, The Professional Wingman’s founder
4. At A 5K Run
“One of the most significant aspects of meeting someone new is feeling at ease. Doing something you enjoy at the same time is a terrific approach to make it happen. Do you enjoy running? These days, 5k runs are all about socializing, so consider a suds run, where beer is distributed halfway through the race and a party is thrown at the finish line, complete with a DJ and more suds. There are also chocolate runs, monster dashes, and, of course, ones to raise money for a good cause. These recommendations will also help you connect with others who share your interests. Having a good time, helping others, and meeting new people – that’s a winning combination for finding love.” -Megan Bearce, author and relationship and marriage therapist
5. Volunteering Or Clubs
“Finding someone who shares your values is your best option for a happy relationship.” Volunteering for non-profits and attending community activities are examples of this. Yoga, environmental clubs, library book clubs, work out groups, neighborhood classes, and adult audit classes are all shared interests.” -Relationship and sex specialist Dr. Kat Van Kirk